Why Mums Are Never in the Photos (And Why It Matters That They Are)
When you scroll through family albums or your phone’s camera roll, you’ll likely notice something missing—Mum. She’s the one behind the lens, capturing the first steps, birthday candles, beach days, and messy ice cream smiles. But where is she?
Why Are Mums Missing from the Frame?
The Default Photographer: Mums often become the family photographer by default. It’s instinctual—they want to document every precious moment, and in doing so, they step out of the frame.
Self-Criticism: Many mums feel self-conscious about their appearance. They’ll say, “I’ll join the next one,” or “I’m not camera-ready.” But here’s the truth: your kids don’t care if your hair isn’t perfect or if you’re not wearing makeup. They see you.
Busy Being Busy: Mums are multitasking superheroes. Between organizing, comforting, cleaning, and caring, pausing to pose for a photo isn’t always top of mind.
Why Mums NEED to Be in the Photos
For the Kids: One day, your children will look for photos of you. They won’t care if your hair was messy or you had tired eyes. They’ll just want to see you there, holding them, laughing with them, living life alongside them.
Capturing Your Story: Family photos aren’t just for social media; they’re your legacy. You are a vital part of your family's story, and your presence deserves to be documented.
Memories for You: Photos aren’t just for others; they’re for you too. Looking back at images of genuine, imperfect moments can be a powerful reminder of the love and life you’ve built.
How to Make Sure You’re in the Frame
Hand Over the Camera: Let your partner, a friend, or even your kids take photos of you.
Set a Timer: Propped phones and self-timers are game-changers.
Book a Professional Photographer: Schedule family photo sessions where you don’t have to worry about angles, lighting, or capturing the moment—someone else does it for you.
Candid Over Perfect: Don’t wait for the “perfect” moment. The messy, real-life photos often become the most treasured.
Final Thoughts
Mums, you belong in the frame. You are more than the person behind the camera—you’re the heart of the family story. The next time you reach for your phone to snap a picture, pause and ask someone to capture you too.
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